A list is a starting point, not a contract
You can group items as interested, maybe, no, and—when needed—a hard boundary. For each item, ask: under what conditions, with whom, and does it need more preparation or aftercare? Either person may change an answer in the moment without having to defend the change.
Put safety first
Every preference needs to be re-confirmed in its specific context. Before starting, discuss limits, stop signals, physical and emotional state, privacy, and aftercare; keep checking in and leave time to debrief. Silence, hesitation, intoxication, pressure, or past agreement never replace present, clear consent.
A practical next step
Choose one question from this page and discuss only that question. A test result or checklist can prepare language, but it never replaces specific, present, and withdrawable consent.
Open Kink SheetResources and support
If you experience ongoing distress, coercion, harm, or cannot leave safely, prioritize a trusted person, local mental-health or medical services, or emergency support. These pages do not replace professional help.
Questions people often ask
Does “maybe” mean consent?
No. It means the person is open to discussing conditions; it does not authorize starting.