Not a test—a conversation map
Use 60 non-graphic, skippable prompts to record “interested”, “maybe”, “no”, and “hard limit”. Answers are processed in this browser.
Restraint & limits
A prompt for discussing whether “Using a soft blindfold” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Confirm physical limits, quick release, and an exit route. Stop immediately for numbness, pain, breathing or swallowing difficulty, or a change in awareness, and seek medical or emergency help as appropriate. Neck pressure or breath restriction, suspension, and severe impact are high-risk activities; a checklist cannot establish readiness.
A prompt for discussing whether “Agreeing to brief movement limits” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Confirm physical limits, quick release, and an exit route. Stop immediately for numbness, pain, breathing or swallowing difficulty, or a change in awareness, and seek medical or emergency help as appropriate. Neck pressure or breath restriction, suspension, and severe impact are high-risk activities; a checklist cannot establish readiness.
A prompt for discussing whether “Practicing a position in a safe setting” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Confirm physical limits, quick release, and an exit route. Stop immediately for numbness, pain, breathing or swallowing difficulty, or a change in awareness, and seek medical or emergency help as appropriate. Neck pressure or breath restriction, suspension, and severe impact are high-risk activities; a checklist cannot establish readiness.
A prompt for discussing whether “Discussing hand or foot restraint” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Confirm physical limits, quick release, and an exit route. Stop immediately for numbness, pain, breathing or swallowing difficulty, or a change in awareness, and seek medical or emergency help as appropriate. Neck pressure or breath restriction, suspension, and severe impact are high-risk activities; a checklist cannot establish readiness.
A prompt for discussing whether “Using quickly releasable gear” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Confirm physical limits, quick release, and an exit route. Stop immediately for numbness, pain, breathing or swallowing difficulty, or a change in awareness, and seek medical or emergency help as appropriate. Neck pressure or breath restriction, suspension, and severe impact are high-risk activities; a checklist cannot establish readiness.
A prompt for discussing whether “Scheduling timed check-ins” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Confirm physical limits, quick release, and an exit route. Stop immediately for numbness, pain, breathing or swallowing difficulty, or a change in awareness, and seek medical or emergency help as appropriate. Neck pressure or breath restriction, suspension, and severe impact are high-risk activities; a checklist cannot establish readiness.
A prompt for discussing whether “Discussing space and exit routes” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Confirm physical limits, quick release, and an exit route. Stop immediately for numbness, pain, breathing or swallowing difficulty, or a change in awareness, and seek medical or emergency help as appropriate. Neck pressure or breath restriction, suspension, and severe impact are high-risk activities; a checklist cannot establish readiness.
A prompt for discussing whether “Learning basic release knowledge” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Confirm physical limits, quick release, and an exit route. Stop immediately for numbness, pain, breathing or swallowing difficulty, or a change in awareness, and seek medical or emergency help as appropriate. Neck pressure or breath restriction, suspension, and severe impact are high-risk activities; a checklist cannot establish readiness.
A prompt for discussing whether “Letting the restrained person set duration” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Confirm physical limits, quick release, and an exit route. Stop immediately for numbness, pain, breathing or swallowing difficulty, or a change in awareness, and seek medical or emergency help as appropriate. Neck pressure or breath restriction, suspension, and severe impact are high-risk activities; a checklist cannot establish readiness.
A prompt for discussing whether “Using limits as a focus exercise” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Confirm physical limits, quick release, and an exit route. Stop immediately for numbness, pain, breathing or swallowing difficulty, or a change in awareness, and seek medical or emergency help as appropriate. Neck pressure or breath restriction, suspension, and severe impact are high-risk activities; a checklist cannot establish readiness.
Sensation & touch
A prompt for discussing whether “Gentle touch” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Start low and keep checking sensations; endurance is not evidence that someone wants to continue.
A prompt for discussing whether “Different textures” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Start low and keep checking sensations; endurance is not evidence that someone wants to continue.
A prompt for discussing whether “Changes in rhythm” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Start low and keep checking sensations; endurance is not evidence that someone wants to continue.
A prompt for discussing whether “Discussing warm and cool sensations” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Start low and keep checking sensations; endurance is not evidence that someone wants to continue.
A prompt for discussing whether “Letting the receiver adjust intensity” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Start low and keep checking sensations; endurance is not evidence that someone wants to continue.
A prompt for discussing whether “Contrasting sound and quiet” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Start low and keep checking sensations; endurance is not evidence that someone wants to continue.
A prompt for discussing whether “Sensory focus after covering the eyes” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Start low and keep checking sensations; endurance is not evidence that someone wants to continue.
A prompt for discussing whether “Trying a new sensation at low intensity” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Start low and keep checking sensations; endurance is not evidence that someone wants to continue.
A prompt for discussing whether “Noting liked and disliked sensations” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Start low and keep checking sensations; endurance is not evidence that someone wants to continue.
A prompt for discussing whether “Checking physical responses afterward” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Start low and keep checking sensations; endurance is not evidence that someone wants to continue.
Power & rules
A prompt for discussing whether “One person proposing the flow” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Rules must be specific and revocable without removing real-world agency; silence is not consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Making rules together” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Rules must be specific and revocable without removing real-world agency; silence is not consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Using agreed titles” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Rules must be specific and revocable without removing real-world agency; silence is not consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Practicing requests during interaction” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Rules must be specific and revocable without removing real-world agency; silence is not consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Defining pause and restart methods” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Rules must be specific and revocable without removing real-world agency; silence is not consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “The receiver keeping final veto power” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Rules must be specific and revocable without removing real-world agency; silence is not consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Short-term tasks or rituals” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Rules must be specific and revocable without removing real-world agency; silence is not consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Reviewing rules together afterward” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Rules must be specific and revocable without removing real-world agency; silence is not consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Writing down the scope of control” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Rules must be specific and revocable without removing real-world agency; silence is not consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Reconfirming before changing rules” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Rules must be specific and revocable without removing real-world agency; silence is not consent.
Role-play & identity
A prompt for discussing whether “Using light role titles” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Agree on an out-of-role signal and excluded themes; a role does not change adult identity, legal responsibility, or consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Designing a fictional scenario” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Agree on an out-of-role signal and excluded themes; a role does not change adult identity, legal responsibility, or consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Separating role from daily life” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Agree on an out-of-role signal and excluded themes; a role does not change adult identity, legal responsibility, or consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Agreeing on entering and leaving role signals” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Agree on an out-of-role signal and excluded themes; a role does not change adult identity, legal responsibility, or consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Adding clothing or prop elements” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Agree on an out-of-role signal and excluded themes; a role does not change adult identity, legal responsibility, or consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Using a story instead of commands” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Agree on an out-of-role signal and excluded themes; a role does not change adult identity, legal responsibility, or consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Returning to everyday names afterward” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Agree on an out-of-role signal and excluded themes; a role does not change adult identity, legal responsibility, or consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Writing down excluded themes” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Agree on an out-of-role signal and excluded themes; a role does not change adult identity, legal responsibility, or consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Discussing caregiver or pet roles” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Agree on an out-of-role signal and excluded themes; a role does not change adult identity, legal responsibility, or consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Scheduling a role-play debrief” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Agree on an out-of-role signal and excluded themes; a role does not change adult identity, legal responsibility, or consent.
Visibility & audience
A prompt for discussing whether “Being watched in a private space” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Consent separately to audience, recording, and sharing; a public space does not mean bystanders consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Discussing the audience” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Consent separately to audience, recording, and sharing; a public space does not mean bystanders consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Choosing whether to use a mirror” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Consent separately to audience, recording, and sharing; a public space does not mean bystanders consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Describing visibility feelings in words” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Consent separately to audience, recording, and sharing; a public space does not mean bystanders consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Disallowing recording” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Consent separately to audience, recording, and sharing; a public space does not mean bystanders consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Discussing image retention separately” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Consent separately to audience, recording, and sharing; a public space does not mean bystanders consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Showing only in a mutually agreed space” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Consent separately to audience, recording, and sharing; a public space does not mean bystanders consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Checking that observers consent” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Consent separately to audience, recording, and sharing; a public space does not mean bystanders consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Setting a clear sharing scope” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Consent separately to audience, recording, and sharing; a public space does not mean bystanders consent.
A prompt for discussing whether “Deleting records that are no longer needed” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Consent separately to audience, recording, and sharing; a public space does not mean bystanders consent.
Boundaries & care
A prompt for discussing whether “Doing a state check before starting” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Discuss check-ins, stopping, and aftercare beforehand; either person can pause or leave.
A prompt for discussing whether “Writing stop signals together” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Discuss check-ins, stopping, and aftercare beforehand; either person can pause or leave.
A prompt for discussing whether “Discussing hard and soft limits” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Discuss check-ins, stopping, and aftercare beforehand; either person can pause or leave.
A prompt for discussing whether “Preparing water, warmth, and quiet” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Discuss check-ins, stopping, and aftercare beforehand; either person can pause or leave.
A prompt for discussing whether “Checking emotional state afterward” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Discuss check-ins, stopping, and aftercare beforehand; either person can pause or leave.
A prompt for discussing whether “Planning a next-day check-in” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Discuss check-ins, stopping, and aftercare beforehand; either person can pause or leave.
A prompt for discussing whether “Allowing either person to change their mind” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Discuss check-ins, stopping, and aftercare beforehand; either person can pause or leave.
A prompt for discussing whether “Writing privacy agreements clearly” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Discuss check-ins, stopping, and aftercare beforehand; either person can pause or leave.
A prompt for discussing whether “Discussing responses to injury or discomfort” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Discuss check-ins, stopping, and aftercare beforehand; either person can pause or leave.
A prompt for discussing whether “Noting next-time adjustments in a debrief” fits you; it is not an assumption of consent or action.
Safety: Discuss check-ins, stopping, and aftercare beforehand; either person can pause or leave.
When you are done
The comparison code encodes only the 60 states. It contains no name, explanation, or identity information; share it only with someone you trust.